To spare your love from misdirection
And to cease your hopeless benediction,
Of mind and heart
And let not your love from reason depart.
Be more sapient than your eyes
See that which, beyond the horizon, lies.
Feel the splendor, but take caution
With your devotion
For that which promises much abundance
Will take from you without reluctance
See clearly your life’s direction
And offer all diversions sound rejection.
So you are single and feeling sorry for yourself. You think you’re a catch, so why haven’t you found a partner to share your life with yet?
This simple statistic could be the reason:
1 in 3 marriages started online.
Yes! You read that correctly. 1 in 3!! One third of all marriages! Started online!
And I bet you thought online dating was for those who couldn’t get a date in real life. Joke’s on you, because technology has shifted the paradigm. Online is real life. With 96% of everyone under 30 being on at least 1 social media platform and the 55-65 age group being the fastest growing demographic on facebook …… where else can you have access to that many people?
And here I am shying away from online dating, still single. I guess it’s time we single gals get out there….take a cute picture, post on social media and rack up those likes.
If you never post pictures of yourself online you may be making it harder for you to find your future mate. And please make the pictures you post flattering photos. A photo that properly captures a bit of your essence. Are you sporty, like outdoors, an animal person? Let your online presence reflect that, you don’t have to post a new picture often but have a few flattering pictures of yourself doing something you enjoy.
Of course this advice is for if you wish to get married or at least get into a relationship. This is not the only way but with a statistic like 1 in 3 marriages starting online, if you want to get married and find yourself in a dating rut, it might not hurt to entertain a conversation or two online. Or you can slide the the DMs of that person you’ve been crushing on. Just remember to stay respectful and back off if they ask you.
If you’re looking for a relationship but haven’t been using social media and the internet, it’s time you get with the times!
Time to take a selfie!
You say you love my smile, are enraptured with it and you aren’t sure why. Well maybe you see or feel the loneliness it masks or feel the pull of the desire to be loved, held, taken care of. Maybe your soul recognises another soul in distress and wants to help, reach out, connect.
Maybe the karmic energies of the world are so greatly entwined that my grief attracts all grief, even that which was so small and well hidden in you.
You say that you’re interested in me but don’t know in what way, you just can’t help but look at me and want to be close. Maybe we’re designed so that hurt attracts hurt, loneliness attracts loneliness. Maybe you’re interested because of some ancient male genome, designed to protect, honed in on my concealed distress signal. Maybe you’re interested when I smile because you can feel that the light that is there, bright as it may be, is heavily shadowed by clouds of despair.
Or maybe my smile enraptured you because it’s the smile of somebody who knows love, has felt it, lost it but remembers it and is searching for it in everyone but knows she will never find it like she lost it but is dying inside to find it and live it again.
Maybe it’s the smile of someone dying to live again and begging every soul it meets to live with it, and maybe your soul wants to live like my soulful smile promises….with love and freedom.
I have a big house, a great paying job and a european made car. I am married to a wonderful loving faithful husband and we have beautiful, well behaved children.
Actually none of that is true. I don’t own my own home and where I rent is actually a humble 3 bedroom that I share with my parents in a shared yard. My job pays adequate for the level but is by no means a baller type salary. I have no car, no husband and no children.
So what the hell you happy about?
Well I would LOVE to have all those things mentioned but none of that would define my happiness. If it did I would be in a constant state of depression.
I’m happy to be alive!
Being alive just holds a host of possibilities. I’m happy to have the all those possibilities available to me. I’m happy to be able to make plans and break plans; to see things come together and to build them back when they fall apart.
I’m happy for all the different types of people I’ve met and will meet. The cute ones, the ugly ones, the annoying ones, the fun ones, the ones who love themselves to the moon and back and the insecure ones. The ones who’ve touched my heart and the ones who’ve broken it. The family that are also friends and the friends who are more like family.
What makes me happy is the ability to feel gratitude for the small things and even for the upsetting things, because everything can teach you a lesson and out of every situation comes a new possibility. Every situation, even the bad ones, gives you a new perspective and an opportunity to do something new or something different.
And though I may not be happy all day every day I am usually happy every day. So if you aren’t happy right now try to see if changing your perspective helps or talk to a professional or talk to a friend. Sometimes I feel so alone, and it comes and goes but I try to make sure that feeling never stays.
This was written from a prompt given by a friend.
~Ms Abby Kay~