This one goes out to the ladies!

You’ve had a few sexual partners before and enjoy your share of sexual relations, this immediately disqualifies you from being considered wife material.

What the hell is up with that. So now because you find sex is fun and don’t deprive yourself of partaking in it you almost automatically get labelled. A ‘hoe’ or ‘bad ting’ or some other derogatory term.

If men can see your sexuality and can easily assume that you enjoy and revel in it, then you get treated with less respect than a perceived virgin. WHY?? Why are you not considered wife material because the world views you as a sensual person? The first thing that comes to mind when thinking about what a wife should be is the Bible passage (see below).

Proverbs 31:10-31King James Version (KJV)

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Now, does anywhere in that passage read…..she must have been a virgin to be considered virtuous. Sure, don’t ‘horn’ your husband, and yes, ideally we should strive to preserve our hidden treasure for that special person.

BUT, it does not mean that those who have ‘sinned’ and have shared that part of themselves with others to partake in the pleasures of the skin cannot be considered for the virtuous institution of marriage. Many women who have not yet found their Boaz are fulfilling a basic human need (SEX in case you’re wondering) while waiting on this Mr Right.

Why would God give a woman a clitoris filled with nerve endings, so that she can enjoy sex if she wasn’t supposed to enjoy it. Waiting on Mr Right can take forever, sometimes a woman may find herself fooled by pretenders. A woman can be industrious, generous, loving and virtuous and still enjoy her sensual side.

YES…..sometimes a Promiscuous Girl CAN be a Virtuous Woman.

What’s your take? Let’s Debate!!